Responsibility After 18???

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Kaydee

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Frustrating how the law works sometimes. If a child is 18 they are considered an adult? Obviously this is so because when my daughter went to the hospital they wouldn't release any information. But now we're being flooded with the bills from her medical care because she used our address...she's kind of drifting so doesn't have one of her own. But because she is independent of our insurance I can't even submit bills to them...she doesn't talk to us...the hospital stay was from a bad batch of something...

I suppose just write on the bills not at this address. But every time I see one, just a whole bunch of dreadful feelings there...A child is independent at 18 so they aren't required to notify you if they live or die...unless they list you as next of kin...but they still expect you to pay the bills...Uh. No.
Gah, thanks for letting me share
 

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I hope she didn't give them your phone number or they will be calling you soon.
Hopefully your daughter will straighten up and come back a new woman. Kids can be our greatest joy and our greatest sorrow.
 

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They can send you the bills, but i don't think you can be held responsible for them.

Thankfully, i stopped putting my mom through hell at about 17
 

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...I suppose just write on the bills not at this address...
It's worth a try. Somehow, we started getting hospital bills for someone else (we think it might be the idiot down the road). And, apparently they've gone to collection to boot. I simply wrote- "No such person at this address" and put them back in the mail. The end of the billing cycle should be coming up soon, so we'll see if it worked.

I had to do kind of the same thing with our oldest son- he used our address for a credit card, then the calls started coming. I told the person calling that our son didn't live here anymore, and I wasn't sure where he was (no lie, he and his wife had seperated, and he was "couch surfing" for awhile).
 

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Just because the bills come there does not mean you are responsible for them. You can send them back or ignore them. It won't make a difference.
This.

Just because they go to your home doesn't mean you are responsible for them. They'll annoy the crap out of you because that's what collectors do but you really aren't the one who has to pay them.
 
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Yeah the bills annoy the crap out of me, she...gawd, there moments like last night when we were shopping for clothes for my son and while I'm waiting him to try on...I'm window shopping the jewelry and clothes and I could see Al in this and zebra print earrings oh definitely her. Then there's days like the suits showing up at the front door asking if we know where she is...the prosecutors office have a few questions for her...it's ongoing...just when you haven't heard from them for awhile...a piece of mail or someone in uniform...sigh...thanks for all the support though folks, it helps
 

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Yah, you definitely are not responsible for the bills, They (should be) in her name.

I know here, once I hit 16, my doctor was not allowed to give my parents any information.
 
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i can tell you at 16 in the your doctor has a responsibility to your parents to inform them. If you didn't sign a promise to pay when your daughter was admited, you're not financially obligated to anything
 

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i can tell you at 16 in the your doctor has a responsibility to your parents to inform them. If you didn't sign a promise to pay when your daughter was admited, you're not financially obligated to anything
And I can tell you at 16 my doctor could absolutely not tell my parents anything that went on. This is after trying to get them to get some information for me from 3 separate doctors, so no, it was t just that doctor.
 

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It's likely different here because of our health care system (No way for a parent to be on the hook financially) but Jess is right about the legality here, I was 16 when I got pregnant with Jenn, living at home, and my Dr advised me to tell my parents ASAP (which I did) but I asked him to "give me time" and he said without my permission he could not even tell my parents I wanted aspirin let alone was pregnant....
 

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Hold on to hope and be there as a support system if she needs it. I was a wreck at 18 and I turned out pretty well, I really credit my moms undying support for a lot of it. I can't imagine what it's like to be put through the ringer as a parent though, I'm very sorry and hope it gets better sooner than later.
 

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I was a wild child at 18 too. Hopefully she will pull it together soon.

It must be a difference. I think its even younger? I knew girls that would go get birth control without their parents knowing at 14 here.
 

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