There are 23 pages of posts in this thread, so obviously I haven't read them all or been able to keep up with wherever the thread has led to, if it's now on a diff. subject. But going back to the original question, I've thought it over a lot, and I do regret some of what I've said it the thread, especially towards one poster in particular.
Who I believe should receive financial assistance is ANYONE who is struggling financially, but is doing the best they can. Someone who needs that little bit of a push to help them buy groceries, or get their child to a doctor, or themselves to a doctor, or to get their child some clothes, who would otherwise not be able to afford it without a little outside assistance. I know it's not black and white, and there's 50,000 miles of gray area that's melted in-between, but it's midnight and that's my honest to God two cents on who I think should get it. Not those who pop out children just for extra money, or sit around and get assistance because they don't want to go out and get a job. I think assistance should be for those who CAN work and are working, and are doing the best they can. For those who cannot work due to disability, or other health reason, that's a totally diff. story and I don't think that makes them mooching either, as they are deserving as well.
As far as someone being 'smug' because they've gotten further in life, I don't think there's any excuse for someone to be 'smug'. If you go to college, get a degree, and go out and get a great paying job that affords you all the things in life you deserve, good for you. Absolutely, and you deserve it. If you didn't go to college, but clawed your way to the top to have everything if life that you have, same thing, congrats and you fully deserve it. But that doesn't give anyone the excuse to be smug. My definition of smug, and it may vary from the definition that others have, is a false sense of superiority, or a sense of being better than someone else. That's smug to me, and I don't think there's ever an excuse for it.
Not everyone has the ability to go to college, too many kids don't qualify for grants, and can't afford loans. And many do claw their ways into great jobs without a college degree, but that doesn't make anyone any better than those still stuck at the bottom, clawing their way up, and have nothing to their name as a result.
I've never been on assistance, my parents have never been on assistance. Neither one of my parents graduated highschool, but my dad started rebuilding cars as a teenager, and grew up to be a mechanic and a truck driver. Now he's been driving diesel trucks for over 30 years, and also is a mechanic manager for the same company he works for now, after being a mechanic on the side for over 25 years. My dad worked his way to where he is now and he's only home 2 nights a month, and stays gone the rest of the time working constantly so that his family, especially his wife, can have everything he feels we deserve.
When I was younger, we hardly had anything. We lived in an old trailer, in a trailer park filled with crime. My mom worked 2 jobs and my dad worked 2 jobs, and my grandmother kept me during the day, just to keep a roof over our head. They shared 1 car that was literally falling apart. At one time, we depended on an aunt and uncle just to have dinner, and my grandmother who moved in with us, helped pay our house note with her small monthly SS check. My parents applied for assistance back then and were turned down, and told they made TOO MUCH MONEY. But they didn't. Between them they worked four jobs, but it was never factored in that they were raising a child, had a house note, house insurance, car note, car insurance, medical bills for me, groceries, electricity, running water, and all the bills that come with life. It sucked their funds dry, and for years my parents lived on the verge of losing everything, and even gave up and filed for bankruptcy. It's been around 15 years ago now, but still.
And things have gotten better as time as gone on, but in the economy today, nothing is ever certain. Someone can be smug with their college education and wonderful paying job, doesn't mean their immune to layoffs in the future. So I never think smugness is something to be proud of.
We're not dirt poor anymore, but the economy has proven that anything can happen. Just 3 years ago, we weren't 'rich' but we were doing pretty damm good. In a matter of 6 months, my parents went out and bought a nice used car, a brand new truck, a house with land out here in the country, and the workshop my dad had always dreamed of. We afforded to re-gravel our driveway, buy an expensive riding mower, a laptop, new tvs, and they took a vacation. Yep things were looking great and life really wasn't all that bad.
Things continued to go great until my dad lost his job awhile back. It took him over 2 months to get a new job, despite his background, and relying only on my job and mom's part-time job, bills completely stacked up. By the time my dad found a job 2 months later and a paycheck rolled in, the house was almost 3 months behind with foreclosure papers sitting on the table. Because my job and her job had to pay for the vehicles, pay for groceries, pay the electricity, ect. Who knew that would ever happen, when months before, it had never been a concern.
Now my dad is working a great job again, and things are once again smooth sailing. For now. Bills are easily payed with a little money left over for some small luxuries. But with the economy, my parents learned a lesson in making sure they add to a savings account in case anything was to happen again. Something they had never done before.
So anyways, past all that rambling, my point was basically what I said in the beginning: I think welfare should be for anyone who is doing the best they can, but is still struggling and needs outside help in order to pay for basic necessities, which includes keeping themselves and their children fed, a roof over their head, and a vehicle to drive to get to work.
And if you understand all of what I just wrote... awesome, LOL.