I want to parent my children a little differently than my parents raised me. They arent taking it well. I told them I havent decided about spanking (I am really thinking I wont but if I say that and decide to I dont want to hear "we TOLD you") but I said if we do decide to spank Danny and I will be the ONLY ones spaking our child. My mom freaked out and was all offended and said "well dont ever ask me to keep you kids" Well FINE. My parents spanked me ALL the time but my grandparents just never needed to. Why is she so eager to spank my child anyway? I think if we properly discipline the child no one else should need to. They will know what behavior is expected of them no matter who they are with. I did.
Also I told her I want to breastfeed and she took it as some kind of personal insult. She was like "what is so horrible about the wa we raised you?" Nothing. I just want to breastfeed EVERYONE knows its best! It's like whenever I say I am going to do something "better" (in her mind) than what she did she gets personally offended and acts like a baby about it.
I want her to respect our desicions. She must realize that we arent going to do EVERYTHING the way she did. Why does she have to argue with every decision I make that is different from hers. Its MY baby! She raised me 20 years ago. There is all sorts if new info on parenting and pediatric health.
I dread it when religion comes up. We are athiest. We arent antireligion by any means. I want my child to choose any religion they want but I want it ot be THEIR choice. I dont want my parents cramming christianity down my kids throat but at the same time I know they are going to want to bring the aby to church to show off and to sunday school when he/she is older but I dont want them brainwashing my baby against me when I'm not around and I know they will. They are pretty religious so there goes any hope of my kid deciding their religion independantly. Not to mention that they are going to use my child to guilt me into going to church.
I need some advice! All opinions welcome. I promise.
Also I told her I want to breastfeed and she took it as some kind of personal insult. She was like "what is so horrible about the wa we raised you?" Nothing. I just want to breastfeed EVERYONE knows its best! It's like whenever I say I am going to do something "better" (in her mind) than what she did she gets personally offended and acts like a baby about it.
I want her to respect our desicions. She must realize that we arent going to do EVERYTHING the way she did. Why does she have to argue with every decision I make that is different from hers. Its MY baby! She raised me 20 years ago. There is all sorts if new info on parenting and pediatric health.
I dread it when religion comes up. We are athiest. We arent antireligion by any means. I want my child to choose any religion they want but I want it ot be THEIR choice. I dont want my parents cramming christianity down my kids throat but at the same time I know they are going to want to bring the aby to church to show off and to sunday school when he/she is older but I dont want them brainwashing my baby against me when I'm not around and I know they will. They are pretty religious so there goes any hope of my kid deciding their religion independantly. Not to mention that they are going to use my child to guilt me into going to church.
I need some advice! All opinions welcome. I promise.