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Old 06-25-2013, 03:55 PM
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I like super stranger friendly dogs who want to meet everyone. I do want the dog to like me more than said stranger though, but I wouldn't prefer a dog that was aloof.

Tucker wants all strangers to die so...yeah

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Old 06-25-2013, 04:32 PM
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Definitely somewhere in between is my ideal.

I don't want a dog who will gladly go with anyone and be like 'see ya!' and not give a hoot about when they're going to see me next, LOL. But I don't want to deal with a dog who could be somewhat aggressive or reactive towards other people either.

Jackson is a bit too much on the shy side for my liking and it's the one thing I'd change about him. For the most part, it's aloof, but there is a touch of fear in there. He's okay with strangers in that he is very easy to take out in public. If kids want to pet him, they can, I just say 'go say hi' and he seems to understand. I wouldn't say he enjoys it but he doesn't mind, and tolerates it, and I wouldn't put him through anything he was uncomfortable with. He's more uncomfortable with strange men though and will shy away.

But he tends to just avoid being pet and prefers you not to say anything at all. He certainly doesn't want anyone picking him up (but, he barely likes ME picking him up, either). So if he thinks you're heading in for a pick up, he backs away quickly.

He's deathly terrified at the vet, but he's very good and just sulks, and completely shuts down which makes me very sad, but it's gotta be done sometimes. But he's not aggressive or a biter in any way.

Once he loves you though, he loves you FOREVER. He loves almost my whole immediate family even those he doesn't see very often (uncles, aunts, grandparents, parents, step-parents, siblings, close friends). But I love that he's still not totally obnoxious about it. But you can still tell he really loves you without him jamming into you, or licking up your nostrils, LOL.

So yeah on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being most sociable, I'd say he's probably a 5. Ideally, I'd like a dog with maybe 6 or 7.
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Old 06-25-2013, 04:39 PM
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I don't care as long as the dog is socially stable and able to maintain focus when it's time to work.

Aloofness is fine, shyness or inappropriate guardiness is not. Friendliness is fine, overstimulated attention whoring during work time is not.

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Old 06-25-2013, 04:55 PM
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I prefer aloof/reserved, but not to be mistaken for shy or unfriendly. Just a polite disinterest.

My Dobermans are my ideal. They're happy to oblige someone if I ask them to "go be friends", but they really have no interest in socializing with those that they don't know. People who aren't used to aloof dogs think that Keira and Ripley are shy. They just don't understand how a dog can not care about strangers at all. Both of them are very snooty out in public and I don't know how many times I've apologized to admirers for it haha. In my home though, they expect that any guest is going to pet them for the duration of their stay haha. I have to tell them to leave people alone.

Dance is far, far, far from my ideal. I hate how she is with people. It's embarrassing, especially considering I am not a novice dog owner and I've done everything I can think of to improve her people skills. And she is better than she used to be, but her aversion to people still gets in the way of things. I can't even really call her shy. I think she's just insecure, and shows it by way of barking unexpectedly at a person. There are some people she loves instantly, other people she'll act like she loves and then 5 minutes later barks at them, and a lot of people she wants nothing to do with at all. If you give her about a half an hour without talking to, looking at or touching her, chances are she'll be ok with you, but she'll likely still give a few barks if you get up to leave the room or go somewhere and come back or something. She's a jumpy, insecure dog in most aspects of life though and her first reaction to anything she's slightly uncomfortable with is to bark/growl about it and run away. I didn't actually realize the extent of her insecurities until this year. I knew she was, but we've done different stuff this year and it really shows just how not brave at all she is despite my trying to give her positive associations with things. Ah well, she's just a weird dog. Probably always will be.

Journey is very friendly. She loves meeting and snuggling with as many people as possible. Everyone's a friend. But she doesn't get distracted by her love of people either and is perfectly fine working with me and ignoring other people when needed. She also doesn't usually solicit attention from people unless they give some indication that they want to interact with her. Unless you're in our house, then of course that means she should shove the other dogs out of the way so that she can get as much attention as possible (and no, we don't allow her to be rude like that, but she still tries haha).
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Old 06-25-2013, 06:49 PM
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My guys are on opposite ends of the middle spectrum. I like both just fine.

Meg loves people. She doesn't drag me to them, or even really "seek them out", but if someone makes eye contact with her or puts a hand out, she's very happy to go seek out some love. She won't jump all over them or maul them for attention, but will sit on their feet and put her ears back and squint her eyes and absorb the loving. I've never had her leave me to seek it out, and if I move to leave, she follows, but if I'm in sight - she's happy with anyone.

Gusto thinks people are idiots. He will barely look at them in public. People put their hands out, get down low, coo at him...and he barely glances their way. He doesn't even like *me* loving on him in public, and he spends half his life indoors trying to crawl into my mouth. When I shared a hotel room with a friend, she was blown away when he jumped on the bed with her to snuggle; in two years of seeing her weekly or more at agility events, he's never sought out attention from her.

I sometimes worry with Gusto that it is something more than aloof, but he's sweet to everyone in the house, and he's never "reactive" if someone surprises him or grabs at him - he just moves away.

I'd definitely rather too friendly than not friendly; human aggression is something I don't ever want to deal with. But I love my "middle of the road" guys.

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Old 06-25-2013, 07:10 PM
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Friendly all the way. Jack is very friendly with people, but definitely prefers "his" people and picks favorites outside the family. He LOVES my friend Ann, and DH and I often joke that Jack wishes I'd married Ann instead of him. He also adores the 3 women who clean the training center where he swims. He can be a huge attention *****. When we take him to the "European Market" (basically a super yuppy farmers market) in my hometown he pretty much basks in the attention the entire time.

I love Sally but never want to have to deal with a stranger timid dog again. She really isn't skittish in general, and is not reactive to people, but retreats from strangers and is uncomfortable and anxious in crowds. She was like that when we got her at a year old, and while she has gotten much better I don't see her ever being super social. She is much better with women and kids than men, but can become very friendly with anyone given the time to get to know them. We will often have Jack meet new people first, and that really helps her shyness to see that the strangers are petting Jack rather than eating him.

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Old 06-25-2013, 07:45 PM
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I do have to say I wouldn't like a dog that is completely disinterested in strangers. I like to share my dog with some people and want the dogs to enjoy that as well. I'd prefer an overly happy/friendly dog to a completely aloof dog.
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Old 06-25-2013, 07:46 PM
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Beau is the perfect dog......he's aloof when he needs to be but he does seek out people for love. He's not a kisser but he will not jump on people but put his paws on their legs and melt into them, he's old now so I just gave up . But other times he can be a jerk and pretend that they don't exist.

Unless it's children, when he sees a kid is SCREW YOU I MUST SEE THE CHILD!!!!!!!! He LOVES kids with every fiber of his being, his favorite person in the entire world is my 9 year old nephew.

Takoda.......well she's FA to a point. If she's on her own turf, she'd do some major damage to someone. Outside in public she's fine to the point she seems to love people it's weird. So I wouldn't want another dog like her.

Bear, he hates everyone besides the people that live in the house.
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Old 06-25-2013, 08:42 PM
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I have one of each. Charlotte is very people friendly, where as Ma'ii is aloof. He's not mean, timid, or shy, he'd just rather not interact with strangers. And honestly, that's what I prefer. I appreciate Charlotte's sweetness with people, but I'd rather a dog who's more reserved, like Ma'ii.

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Old 06-26-2013, 08:22 AM
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Crossbone is polite and friendly in public. He lets people pet him but isn't overly affectionate. Most times we have to tell him to go say hi and he stands nicely and wags his tail.

In the house though...he thinks that everyone who walks through the door is his best friend (probably because he knows the people well who come over often) but he's obnoxious and climbing into their laps, licking faces and way overexcited.

We are amazed at how awesome he is in public and that he's so easy and great to take anywhere. Polite/Friendly is my ideal.

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