everyday i take Victor over to GG's to play with Shaffer for about three hours..taking mary back home with me. She is so happy to have her special "mom" time without the showoff around. Today we were hanging around outside (something we cannot do with Vic because of the stupid neighbor now..he has to either be on a leash or tied and it has taken alllll the fun out of yardwork) but Mary is a good gurl, you never need to even look where she is, she never leaves the yard..anyway i turned around to see her being as silly as a pup. She had a toy and threw it up in the air..did a little dance and spin around thing..just as happy as happy could be. This is a win win all the way. Victor being the same age as Shaffer gets the hard wrestle and romp that Mary can no longer really do and she gets to be told how special she is. I use to divide my weekends so that each child went to Dad's and the other stayed with me..that way everyone got a special weekend..did mean i didn't have much of a social life, but hey there only little for a little while and i never regretted it. One on one time is good for everybody.