she never stops crying/whining! help!

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i picked up lily about two weeks ago from the humane society and she hasn't really been out of my sight since. (shes adorable) i think that this is a major reason in why she won't stop crying whenever i leave the room. if i crate her while i take a shower, i can hear her crying the entire time, if i leave to go to the bathroom, she doesnt stop. when i come in the room she used to stop immediatley, but now it takes her a little time to calm down. if she isn't crated, she follows me constantly. when she cries in the crate, i feel absolutely awful and want to rush in to help her, but i know that i need to be consistent if i ever want to leave the house knowing that she is ok... but i'm at my wits end. i don't want to leave my house with her alone, because i feel so horrible about it. i tried leaving her in for different lengths of time, giving her treats, and even leaving her in when im in the room so she doesnt associate her crate with a bad place. (it's right next to my bed) she doesn't tear up her blankets or harm herself, but she does chew up the newspaper in her cage (but she does that while im in the room as well)... so i dont know if she has separation anxiety? i need something to do that won't break either of our hearts. thankkkk you! :eek:
 

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Yeah sounds like she has lots of anxiety. I guess you can do it gradually. Even if she cries you just have to ignore it. Why don't you start leaving her alone every 15 min. Or just leave her in whenever she stops crying. I did this and it worked. TOki still cries when I leave the house but he stops after 3 min because he knows that I won't be back and I can't hear him. It takes some time. I spoiled TOki by taking him every where when he was a pup but when he just got older I can't take him everywhere and he cries. But now he knows better.
 

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Yeah sounds like she has lots of anxiety. I guess you can do it gradually. Even if she cries you just have to ignore it. Why don't you start leaving her alone every 15 min. Or just leave her in whenever she stops crying. I did this and it worked. TOki still cries when I leave the house but he stops after 3 min because he knows that I won't be back and I can't hear him. It takes some time. I spoiled TOki by taking him every where when he was a pup but when he just got older I can't take him everywhere and he cries. But now he knows better.

i don't understand why she would hate her crate so much if she was in one for her entire stay at the humane society? i don't know if that is an ignorant thing to think... but i just feel awful.
 

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Sounds like she was taken from her mom too early. Maybe a hot water bottle or ticking clock. Something to sound like Mama. Help me out here Grammy! Grammy will know. :D I'm no expert. Just thought I'd give my thoughts. She might have cried at rescue too.
 

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Maybe if you leave something that has your scent on it....like a shirt or sock you had just worn.....with her might help if she is so attatched with you.
 

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We have some dog trainers on here that I'm sure will be able to help more. Wecome to Chazhound though! Do you have any pics of Lily?
 

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We have some dog trainers on here that I'm sure will be able to help more. Wecome to Chazhound though! Do you have any pics of Lily?


thank you! reading through these forums has all ready given me some wonderful tips and not to mention everyone is very welcoming and helpful!


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Your welcome and yes it's very informative here and we're like family :D By the way we can't click on to your pic
 

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It'll get better. Is she your first dog?

my first puppy on my own. i lost my family dog a few years ago after 16 years... so i decided to move out and get my own puppy. it's very overwhelming but i know that it will be worth it. i just wish there were a magic pill to get her to listen! after midnight she becomes a little brat, haha.
 

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Yeah it's def worth it. Although Carey was a very good puppy (besides eating things she shouldn't) I lost my Smokey in January he was 15.
 

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after midnight she becomes a little brat, haha.
"After midnight...we gonna let it all hang out..." That's a song! 70's. (?) LOL.

Just so you know....puppies can't be adults overnight. LOL. It's like expecting a 1 year old child to act like a 20 year old in a week or two. (It ain't gonna happen.) LOL

Let your pup be a pup while you're helping him to grow and learn.
 
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One thing no one has mentioned is the crate might be the problem! If she's from a shelter that crate could easily be associated in her mind with being back in a kennel cage in the shelter, making her afraid of being abandoned. A puppy proofed room might solve your problem, plus, as she's going to be a larger dog, she needs to be able to move about freely for her bones and muscles to develop properly. Crating can seriously interfere with that and cause problems later on.
 

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