Ugh, got into a slight argument with my step-dad tonight.
They're getting a cockapoo puppy on Thursday. They go to a diner every Sun morning for breakfast and one of the women there is a breeder. She honestly doesn't seem all that bad for a mixed breed breeder... she was telling us all about the parents, the vet care and health tests they receive, showing us the pics of parents, she sends us pics of the puppy every few days, etc. So anyway, a cockapoo wouldn't be my #1 choice but but it's probably best for my mom, stepdad and 6 year old sister.
So their last cockapoo, Carmen, ended up being a 'farm dog' more or less. We live on 3 acres with 90 acres of farmland behind us. My step-dad isn't a *horrible* person but he just... doesn't GET the dog thing, like at all. He basically just thinks I'm a crazy dog lady. But literally all I am asking is for very BASIC dog care things. It's not about me being an overly protective dog owner.
So yeah Carmen used to be outside all the time. Loose, free roam, she chased cars and four wheelers, very dangerous. Stepdad thought it was so funny. He ended up running her over by accident when he was going down the driveway. Yes he felt terrible and was crying along with us, etc, but I swear he just... is so dense. He actually had the nerve to say something along the lines of "maybe it happened for a reason... she did have lymes disease and I was always worried about her giving it to Emma (my little sister)"... SERIOUS?! When he said that I about died, like you can not be rationalizing this.
And the reason she never wanted to come inside was because if she was messy, he would just put her in the crate in the garage, instead of, ya know, bathing her or washing her off.
She was allowed in the house basically whenever, but whenever we left, if she was outside, she would go hide under the deck and not want to go in, so he would just leave her out there while they went out etc. I am not trying to say she was a miserably treated dog, she wasn't overall, but just.... we don't want to make the same mistakes again. So you would think.
So tonight in the car, I made it clear that this dog is NOT going to be like Carmen (and my mom agrees) and my little sister is VERY excited for "her own" puppy as she is very good with Jackson. He was like "Well when she gets older, yeah..." or something like that. I of course objected to that.
Tom got very defensive and spouted that "THEY'RE ANIMALS!!! THEY WERE MEANT TO LIVE OUTSIDE!! We wouldn't have dogs if they couldn't have survived outside" I said "leaving a cockapoo outside like that is called animal cruelty" and that really flipped him out. He literally compared it to "horses and cows live outside and they're fine"... I can't even. It was not even worth arguing with him at this point and I did not want to fight in front of my little sister. I did mention "well us humans used to live outside too, why don't you make Emma go live outside?" LOL... :rofl1: A breed like a cockapoo or any other of the smaller companion breeds were MADE by humans, and NOT 'created' for outdoor living. I'm not even againist 'outdoor dogs' if they are the proper breed, have the proper protection, vet care and food etc, but it's just... beside the point.
But HOW DENSE CAN YOU BE?! Sooo you're going to pay $1000 for a puppy, only to decide to leave it outside and be loose all the time?
Anyway, Ugh there was so much more I wanted to rationally talk to him about. But it would probably be pointless anyway.
So this pup is certainly not going to live that way, between my mom and I and my little sister, it won't happen but it just irritates me that he even thinks this way especially after hearing and seeing me with Jackson, I just... almost feel bad for people who just don't GET it.
They're getting a cockapoo puppy on Thursday. They go to a diner every Sun morning for breakfast and one of the women there is a breeder. She honestly doesn't seem all that bad for a mixed breed breeder... she was telling us all about the parents, the vet care and health tests they receive, showing us the pics of parents, she sends us pics of the puppy every few days, etc. So anyway, a cockapoo wouldn't be my #1 choice but but it's probably best for my mom, stepdad and 6 year old sister.
So their last cockapoo, Carmen, ended up being a 'farm dog' more or less. We live on 3 acres with 90 acres of farmland behind us. My step-dad isn't a *horrible* person but he just... doesn't GET the dog thing, like at all. He basically just thinks I'm a crazy dog lady. But literally all I am asking is for very BASIC dog care things. It's not about me being an overly protective dog owner.
So yeah Carmen used to be outside all the time. Loose, free roam, she chased cars and four wheelers, very dangerous. Stepdad thought it was so funny. He ended up running her over by accident when he was going down the driveway. Yes he felt terrible and was crying along with us, etc, but I swear he just... is so dense. He actually had the nerve to say something along the lines of "maybe it happened for a reason... she did have lymes disease and I was always worried about her giving it to Emma (my little sister)"... SERIOUS?! When he said that I about died, like you can not be rationalizing this.
And the reason she never wanted to come inside was because if she was messy, he would just put her in the crate in the garage, instead of, ya know, bathing her or washing her off.
She was allowed in the house basically whenever, but whenever we left, if she was outside, she would go hide under the deck and not want to go in, so he would just leave her out there while they went out etc. I am not trying to say she was a miserably treated dog, she wasn't overall, but just.... we don't want to make the same mistakes again. So you would think.
So tonight in the car, I made it clear that this dog is NOT going to be like Carmen (and my mom agrees) and my little sister is VERY excited for "her own" puppy as she is very good with Jackson. He was like "Well when she gets older, yeah..." or something like that. I of course objected to that.
Tom got very defensive and spouted that "THEY'RE ANIMALS!!! THEY WERE MEANT TO LIVE OUTSIDE!! We wouldn't have dogs if they couldn't have survived outside" I said "leaving a cockapoo outside like that is called animal cruelty" and that really flipped him out. He literally compared it to "horses and cows live outside and they're fine"... I can't even. It was not even worth arguing with him at this point and I did not want to fight in front of my little sister. I did mention "well us humans used to live outside too, why don't you make Emma go live outside?" LOL... :rofl1: A breed like a cockapoo or any other of the smaller companion breeds were MADE by humans, and NOT 'created' for outdoor living. I'm not even againist 'outdoor dogs' if they are the proper breed, have the proper protection, vet care and food etc, but it's just... beside the point.
But HOW DENSE CAN YOU BE?! Sooo you're going to pay $1000 for a puppy, only to decide to leave it outside and be loose all the time?
Anyway, Ugh there was so much more I wanted to rationally talk to him about. But it would probably be pointless anyway.
So this pup is certainly not going to live that way, between my mom and I and my little sister, it won't happen but it just irritates me that he even thinks this way especially after hearing and seeing me with Jackson, I just... almost feel bad for people who just don't GET it.