The Venting Thread

I told him I could not handle her living with us. Period. Not now, not with our current situation/housing. Which I think he accepted. I don't want to put him in a position of her or me, but I just couldn't cope of she were living with us. Which may make me selfish, but by god, then so be it.

I'm trying to figure how how to best broach the, "Are you insane, we cannot afford to support your mother" talk. Especially when if we don't, she may end up in a downward spiral. Ugh.

There are options with his mom. There are volunteer guardians and if she is bad enough to have to live with you she should be able to meet nursing home placement. Otherwise it will be years of her living there. Maybe I thinking of someone else but think this has been an issue? We deal with this all the time at work so just ask if any questions!
And just read your next post- never take her in. There are behavioral health nursing homes if she can not handle herself. If she threatens suicide call 911 and have her admitted to hospital and eventually they will get her there. Keep pushing for them to have a dr write an expert eval for a volunteer guardian. And this is a situation where you need to stand up and say no.

dog is laying in the sun, looking adorable AND MY CAMERA IS STILL BROKEN. Also, tomorrow heading down to NYC to the Climate Change March AND MY CAMERA IS STILL BROKEN. I think it did this to me on purpose so that I'd appreciate it more

Did you take it to get fixed yet? Do you have a P&S to use? If you really need a camera and are willing to add to your journey you can borrow mine.

I have a D90 with assorted lenses.

No, we're taking it down to a shop in the city while we're down there tomorrow. It's the closest Nikon repair place. I do have P&S, but of course, it's in Ohio at my parent's house. Thanks for the offer, but I'll just suck it up and use my cellphone. I doubt I'm going to be taking a lot of pictures anyone. Just a few quick ones here & there.

Alright. I hope they get it fixed for you!

I would really like it if this horrendous cold I caught the second to last day of our honeymoon would go away. It's been almost a week now and it is still going strong now it feels like it is firmly settled in to my chest with a cough that sounds very bad. Sigh. Second week of married life is already doing the whole "in sickness" part well.

So I really take offence when people think I am "living off my mommy" when really it's no different than living with a roommate. I also get annoyed when people think I am forced to live here...No! I made the choice to do this. I made the choice to not watch my mom lose her house and have to move in with crazy relatives. I was not asked to but I made the choice to take over paying a majority of the bills. Because I am single, have no other commitments in my life. And it works for myself and the canines .

I get kinda sick of people judging me because I am 26 years old and still live with my mom...What most people DON'T get is that 5 years ago my mom was laid off from her job after 31 years of service and is now drawing her pension (which was extremely cut back due to her drawing it early) which makes it impossible for her to get a job in the same line of work (retail/grocery/bakery etc). And she is is far from tech savvy or healthy enough to work in a factory setting. Also She is 57 so her options are kinda limited due to not so great health.

My mom and I have always lived well together. We get along really well and she loves the animals just as much as I do. We barely ever argue. I have no rules or guidelines to follow (because i'm an adult). And without me here to pay all the utility bills, buy groceries, and buy gas for the car she would not be able to keep her home.

So I really take offence when people think I am "living off my mommy" when really it's no different than living with a roommate. I also get annoyed when people think I am forced to live here...No! I made the choice to do this. I made the choice to not watch my mom lose her house and have to move in with crazy relatives. I was not asked to but I made the choice to take over paying a majority of the bills. Because I am single, have no other commitments in my life. And it works for myself and the canines .

Also due to my moms poor health we are currently waiting to see if she qualifies (which all the doctors say she does) to receive social security/disability. If that happens that would be a HUGE god send and we could stop living paycheck to paycheck. That would also free me up to possibly move into my own place someday. But in all honesty I am in no hurry.

I just wish the stigma and the judgement would go away. I mainly get it from younger friends (fresh out of high school or college) that can't imagine why I would want to live like this.

I do have to admit though. A few friends have recently had to move back in with their parents due to financial issues. And it's so hard to me not to go "Nah! Nah! Nah! It's not so easy out there on your own is it?

Got a call from the nursing staff this morning...Michael's grandmother passed away. She went quickly and peacefully, with a nurse by her side, but I'm upset that it wasn't us there with her, and I know Michael probably thinks the same. He had wanted to be up there, but either didn't pursue or wasn't qualified for emergency leave at the time.

Wish there was more I could do.

I will never make plans with my sister again.

My uncle passed away suddenly yesterday. We were trying to make plans and the airfare was too expensive for all of us. Plus renting a car for my husband and I. We just spent all this money on our honeymoon. We don't have the extra. So we decided that the four of us would drive up together, split the gas in half and we would be able to drive straight through. She decided to make a mini vacation out of it and took the rest of the week off. Leaving us trying to figure out how to drive 16 hours there stay for the funeral and drive the 16 hours back. All in 3 days.

Come to find out work does not do bereavement for uncles - even when you are very close to them. Which is fine. But then not knowing FOR SURE when the funeral is (Wed? Thurs? Fri?) makes telling your boss you need time off but you don't know how MUCH time off very hard. Thankfully we both got approved for the rest of the week or else I would have had no idea how to make this work.

And I would NOT miss paying my respects to this man for anything. He was a veteran, and the sweetest man I will probably ever know - other than my father. The fact that I just saw him makes this worse. The world lost a very great man yesterday.

Then my sister acts like I'm making a big deal out of it. Sorry I just spent money on drinks and snacks for four people.

So. Long story short - he and I are driving up, and her and her husband a driving up. On the same days and coming home same days. Irritating.

Dropped my phone in an inch of soapy water while scrubbing the horse feed pans at work. Now it's in a bag of rice acting wonky as I'm expecting the daily call from my boyfriend :/

Ended up having to spend a bunch of money and now I'm 10 dollars under my desired minimum. And still waiting for the last paycheck to actually get put in.

Other annoying stuff. Today was not the day.